After being a Buddhist monk for 12 years, Gelong Thubten became depressed. It was a shock for him. And for me, too, when he shared his story. I thought monks have it all figured out.
When we think we have arrived, we are stuck. We can always learn something new about ourselves wherever we are on our journey.
Gelong joined a 4-year retreat on a Scottish island, cut off from the outside world. No news, no internet, no meetings with people outside the retreat location.
He describes the first two years as “falling through space with nothing to hold him”…
I have been writing on Medium for 19 months now. The self-help posts from famous writers encouraged me to become a content creator rather than only a consumer.
I was fired up and thought Medium could become my new full-time job. If I only publish enough, I could get paid for writing. The gold-digger mood on this platform got me hyped up made me feel like I must be the next success story.
Long story short, it didn't happen. I could not quit my 9–5 and become a full-time writer just by publishing on Medium. But here I am 19…
How do we know the difference between a hard worker and a perfectionist? If you have clicked on this article, there is a good chance that you are partly suffering from perfectionism.
Nothing is black and white, we all suffer from shades of perfectionism. Being perfect is often rewarded and our social conditioning dictates exactly how perfect should look.
The reality is being perfect is exhausting. The ‘perfect’ advertised by society is often out of reach for us. Being your own authentic self is your best chance to a happy and satisfying life.
Being perfect is being flawed, accepting it…
It’s summer 2021, one month before my big fat German-Swedish-Chinese Vegan Wedding. I am filled with joy finally we can get married after 2 years of waiting.
One week later, I am crushed. The accommodation for us and international guests is double-booked, everything else is already booked out. The venue cannot do the vegan menu anymore and they canceled the wedding brunch.
When my grandma called saying she would rather have us celebrating abroad than enduring, we didn't invite some second-degree cousins, my heart broke.
It didn't stop here, 3 weeks before a new regulation came in force in Germany…
You are not in control of your life.
Did you know that? How does this make you feel?
You think that is bullshit? I get it. But the truth is most people live 95% of their lifetime ruled by the ego. It’s like as you have pressed the autopilot button in your Tesla and now everything operates without you making any conscious decisions.
This realization is life-changing but also difficult to take in. Take your time to process this. If you feel major resistance coming up now — that's completely normal.
The ego doesn’t really want to change…
You feel exhausted and all you want is to relax. You grab your phone and start doom-scrolling, not knowing what you are looking for.
30 minutes pass and then the reminder pops up.
You have been using your phone for more than 30 minutes…
You feel numb and guilty for wasting your time on social media. The feeling of tiredness is still there, you feel passive and demotivated.
One thing is sure, scrolling on Instagram will not energize us after a tough day at work. So why are we still doing it?
Somebody criticizes you, and it makes you feel sick to the stomach. You can’t let it go and call one of your friends. You want your friend to stand by your side and tell you that you did nothing wrong. You are in the right. The call gives you some comfort.
But it only lasts shortly. Then you call the next friend to get more validation. After all, you are in the right, or?
A feeling sneaks up. They might be right. Maybe you did something wrong.
But all your friends assure you it was not your fault. You feel…
Did people from the past know more about happiness than we do today? Despite all the technology and progress of our time, we still don't know little about happiness.
Did they know the secrets? The elite of philosophers realized what the essence of happiness is. That's why their extraordinary knowledge and advice have survived over 2.000 years until today.
We have Eckhart Tolle, and the Romans had Marcus Aurelius, guiding them towards a purposeful and mindful life.
Marcus Aurelius’ book the Meditations reads like an ancient version of Eckhart Tolle’s book New Earth. …
You finally know what your dream job is?
It took you ages to figure out what your passion is and how you want to spend the next years of your life. But how to get there?
Are you as far away from your dream job as from becoming a millionaire? I know how you feel. I have been there myself. It took me 5 years working in corporate finance until I knew how I want to spend my life.
After taking a year to travel the world, I knew I could not go back to my old job I want…
You start speaking and your voice is shaking. Your hands are sweaty, you are anxious and there is nothing you can do about it.
It scares you. Now, they think you are incompetent and a beginner. But actually, you know exactly what you are talking about. You are well prepared.
Why are we still so nervous when we have to speak in front of important people like CEOs?
I have been working with CEOs my entire career and the post covid nervousness hit me unprepared.
After getting Covid-19, I had to deal with heavy brain fog and the difficulty of…